【Question】Is getting a English speaking gf/bf a good way to improve English?

[anniebaby 10]

A lot of people's oral ability seems to improve after dating a native speaker.

Does this really help or will you just learn loads of slangs and unformal stuff?

Does anybody have any experiences?

[信義之忍 10]

that's fantastic I heartfelt think

Practically, the motivation of my study English is base on that I want to understand the content of foreign erotism website.

In many cases these websites always mixed the love between women and mem with the homosexual.So to speak I am very disgusted with homosexual as it is.

the homosexual pictures emerged from these websites often bothered me.

so I should get a good knowledge of english in order to understand every option and every button on these websites

As to yours above-mentioned

I feel it difficult to archieve，to tell the truth I have nothing to attract them，indeed.It appears that the chinese girls is more easy to get hold of via words of blandishment than those english speaking.

Nevertheless I am still pleased to flirt with someone in english. LOL

[MikiRei 10]

Practically, the motivation of my study English is base on that I want to understand the content of foreign erotism website.

You mean pornographic sites?

Correction:

Technically speaking, my motivation in learning English is due to my desire in wanting to understand the contents on erotic (pornographic - depending which you're talking about) English sites.

that's fantastic I heartfelt think

"That's a fantastic idea" is enough. The expression you wanted to use there is "heartfeltly" I think.

In many cases these websites always mixed the love between women and mem with the homosexual.So to speak I am very disgusted with homosexual as it is.

......

"In many cases, these websites also mix homosexual material with hetrosexual material."

Though the more colloquial way of saying will be:

"In a lot of these websites, they have the gay materials mixed with the straight."

Comment on your comment on homosexuality: Too bad that you feel disgusted with the idea. There's really nothing wrong or unusual about it considering its existence had been around since the beginning of time.

"the homosexual pictures emerged from these websites often bothered me."

The homosexual pictures on these websites often bothers me.

I feel it difficult to archieve，to tell the truth I have nothing to attract them，

I find this difficult to achieve. To tell you the truth, I have nothing to attract English speaking people (personal comment: though very generalised considering that English-speaking aren't all caucasian these days)

indeed.It appears that the chinese girls is more easy to get hold of via words of blandishment than those english speaking.

It appears that Chinese girls are easier to attract (get hold of sounds a little.....= =||| - it makes us sound like objects - personal opinion anyways) via words of blandishment than Caucasian girls. (I changed to Caucasian because I think that's what you mean. Also, "those"???? Sounds like you're treating English speaking girls like some generic object - of course, that's probably due to your unfamiliarity in using the language)

Comment on the above:

You DON'T have anything to attract them or you THINK you don't have anything to attract them? I think it's a sense of intimidation you feel with the idea of having to try and chat up Caucasian girls because

1. English skills is revered as THE skill to have in Asian society, hence, the general sense of fear people have when having to talk with English speakers and

2. NOONE is ever comfortable speaking in another language other than their native tongue.

You should try it out first before lifting the white flag.....:p

For one, the difference in culture and language is already one point of attraction (so long the girl's decent enough to be interested in learning about other cultures). My boyfriend and I tend to engage in many conversations by discussing the difference in culture, the funny quirks in the Chinese language (and English for that matter) and about Chinese/Taiwanese culture, Taiwanese history etc.etc.etc.

In fact, everytime I meet up with his parents or grandparents, most of the time we're talking about Chinese traditions or history or the difference and similarities between Chinese and Jewish (my bf's Jewish) cultures.

Thankfully, too, Taiwanese/Chinese history(depending which one you want to touch on) is very interesting and takes more than one conversation to talk about.

Answer to the thread:

I know of a friend (Australian - that is, he's Caucasian). He's girlfriend's Chinese and she basically practices her English with him but he complains that she never bothers trying to teach him Chinese. I secretly thinks the girl's just using him to learn her English - which is kind of slack. Getting English speaking bf/gf just to improve your English is, in my opinion, uncalled for. Though her English is pretty good, if not better than her peers. (His Chinese, on the other hand...^.^|||)

Does this really help or will you just learn loads of slangs and unformal stuff?

The only way to learn a language is to interact with it. Slang and informal stuff ARE part of the language and for the most part, you can learn all the formal stuff of a language but will still be pretty bad at interacting with native speakers due to the lack of knowledge in their culture (which is usually representable in their usage of slangs). In my opinion, it helps. That friend of mine's gf certainly communicates a lot better than some of the overseas student I talk with but don't make that as your ONLY sentiment to go out with an English speaking gf/bf. That's just NOT on!

[azu 10]

Just a small opinion:

I guess that we don't add plural "s" after slang.

[MikiRei 10]

Yeah, that's right.

[Ice Cream Cat 10]

wat the heck?

how could you people, especially the 2nd floor guy, talk from making a English speaking gf/bf to pornographics, it's definitively ridiculous, LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

but yeah, i gotta admit that this is an overt forum and you guys can say watever you want, even it's not appropriate.

I think making a bf/gf who has English as his/her first language will be good,

and tell me how much you improve afterwardXD

But yeah, just as wat MikiRei had pointed out, it's not gonna work well if all you want is improving English by making native English speakers as bfs/ gfs

and btw, your English is sooooooooooooooooooooo good><

[applejames 10]

it helps you A LOT if you are willing to speak to americans or native english speakers... and it also helps you to learn the conversational english, because after all you can't learn that from a text book= =