【分享】Through a Rapist's eyes (女性必讀)

[OoLucyoO 10]

這是我在一個學姐的無名上看到的

內容跟女性有密切關係

大家留學在外,真的要注意安全

我看完之後整個被嚇死(符合很多項)

跟大家分享~

也請大家跟身旁的女性分享

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair . Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for isclothing. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly . Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone , searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots . Number two: is office parking lots/garages. Number three: is public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question , like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here," "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back .

Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes) , yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker eitherunder the

arm(between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD . One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN . I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

1 Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5 . A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door."

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it , but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This

should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

[xiaolunlun 10]

謝謝你哦

我會更加注意的

[MikiRei 10]

Very interesting indeed and thanks for sharing. The baby coaxing technique is just....crazy though... o.0.

I remember at school we had a police investigator talking to us. He specializes in dealing with rapists and yes, the number one thing he says is, "Always say NO!" In fact, the basic rules were:

1. Put up a fight

2. Don't give up

Reason: Rapists fear getting caught. Put up a good fight and they'll leave very soon. In fact, one of the best example he gave was a 12-year old potential victim. The rapist broke into the girl's home while they were sleeping and intend to rape the girl right then and there in her and her younger sister's room. The girl started yelling and screaming, making a lot of racket and woke her parents up immediately. The rapist ran for it........and returned to a previous victim of his and raped her again. *sigh*

The most ironic and...well, sad example I guess, was an interview the investigator had with this same rapist. One of the rapist's victim did initially put a good fight but gave up eventually. The rapist said, if she gave him another punch, he would have left. = =|||

Oh, just another note. The investigator also told us that most rapes are date rapes. In dealing with date rapes, that's yet another different scenarios. For date rapists, they sort of want to...look cool in front of their friends or they don't want to "miss out". Unfortunately, they also have this stupid idea that when a woman asks them in to their apartment or be alone with him, it's an invite for sex. = =|||

A few techniques he told us. Say no first but if that doesn't work, then say yes (it puts them off guard) and then tell them to hold on a second and that you want to go to the bathroom and "prepare". This puts the guy off their guard (and probably at this point, they're thinking "Score!") and as soon as you're in your bathroom, call your friend or police - whoever to come over straight away. You can keep faking that you're just taking a VEEEEEEERY long time to "pretty up" so that whoever you've contacted have sufficient time to get here. (or just escape through your window - my idea - either way)

Another example he gave us is as follows:

A girl was a friend's party. She met up with some old high school friend. The party eventually got stuffy so she wanted to go for a walk. She asked if the guy would like to take the walk with her. So then there were at the park. The guy started making sexual suggestions which puzzled her. Eventually, the guy made a move on her and started to advance on her right there at the park. The girl panicked, yelled no for a while and then eventually started feigning yes. He then quickly stopped the guy and asked whether he had a condom. The guy was like, "Errrr...no." So the girl said that there's no way she'll do it without a condom. The guy looked puzzled and went, "So what do we do?"

"Oh, don't worry," she replied, "I've got some in my back pack but it's back at the party. Let's go back to the party and I'll fetch it. We'll then find a room. Much more comfortable then." So the guy agreed to go back to the party with her and of course, once they're at the party, the guy was pushed away and the girl latched on to her friends and made sure they knew what just happened.

[xiaolunlun 10]

hey, your sign said that ur eng is bad . i dun think so . urs is good

mine really bad

impossible

[MikiRei 10]

My signature's a joke. :p

I'm quoting Ralph from The Simpsons

[毛‧Sun 10]

在台灣的人比較需要這個吧............

都特赦了

[OoLucyoO 10]

XD

不過台灣比較少人開車吧...

大家都是騎車

[sunbeca 10]

A few techniques he told us. Say no first but if that doesn't work, then say yes (it puts them off guard) and then tell them to hold on a second and that you want to go to the bathroom and "prepare". This puts the guy off their guard (and probably at this point, they're thinking "Score!") and as soon as you're in your bathroom, call your friend or police - whoever to come over straight away. You can keep faking that you're just taking a VEEEEEEERY long time to "pretty up" so that whoever you've contacted have sufficient time to get here. (or just escape through your window - my idea - either way)

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Does this part refer to the 'date rape'??

[cosomyr 10]

看完了

不過我好像不太需要齁 = ="

[Natsuko 10]

話說我有看過中文版XD

[MikiRei 10]

Does this part refer to the 'date rape'??

Yes